Looking for some encouragement to do your first (or next) solo date? I’ve got you! Keep scrolling for 100 Solo Date Affirmations for Confidence, Self-Love, and Courage. You can use these to empower yourself to stop waiting on other people to do the things you love in life. You are just as deserving to enjoy your best life experiences on your own! Use these solo date affirmations to hype yourself up and have a beautiful experience with the best company of all – YOU!
What Is a Solo Date?
A “solo date” actually has nothing to do with romantic dating. A solo date is actually a date that you have with yourself. Solo dating is actually about enjoying your own company.
You can pretty much do any traditional “date” on your own as a “solo date”:
- have a nice meal at a restaurant
- go to a concert
- hang out at a coffee shop
- have a movie marathon
- take an art class
- or other activity
You don’t even have to leave your house to have a great solo date. Just like couples can have dates at home, so can you!
Solo dates are a fun way to experience your city, travel, try new activities, or otherwise do cool things all on your own!
Why Solo Date?
For some of us, we wait for others to do the things we truly wish to do in life. And this can hold us back if our significant other, friends, family members, or other loved ones don’t share our interests or are dragging their feet for one reason or another.
So whether you’re tired of waiting on others or you simply want to start enjoying fun activities and other life experiences, you can enjoy solo dating!
My Solo Dating Experience (From a 0 in English class… to solo dates in NYC 💛)
I haven’t always been the confident solo dater you see now. I used to be so afraid of the judgement of others, that it completely ran how I showed up in the world. 😯
In fact, I once took a zero on a poetry assignment in middle school English because I was too scared to read my poem aloud. I loved what I wrote—but I couldn’t bear the thought of standing at the front of the classroom, heart pounding, being seen.
That fear—of being judged, of being alone, of being “too much” or “not enough”—stayed with me for years.
And for a long time, I was terrified to do anything alone.
But then I started traveling for work and didn’t have a choice. Sure, I could’ve ordered room service and stayed hidden in my hotel room… but I decided to do something different. I took myself out. I faced my fear. And I discovered that I loved the experience.
(Not to mention it wasn’t nearly as scary as I’d made it up to be in my head)
Room service is nice and all, but I truly love exploring new restaurants when I travel. And they are best experienced live and in person, whether I’m with someone or not.
In fact, when I “lived” in NYC, solo dates became a HUGE part of my lifestyle. From fitness classes to casual (or fancy) meals to art events to coffee shop vibes and long walks (or bike rides) through the city, I put myself out there. I stopped waiting for someone else to go with me. And honestly? Some of the best moments of my life happened because I was alone.
I’m a lifelong solo date enthusiast now!
100 Solo Date Affirmations (For Confidence, Self-Love, Courage, and Beyond!)
As you know, I love using positive affirmations to help foster a positive mindset and empower you through change and challenges! So of course I had to compile and write these solo date affirmations for my Solo Date Challenge participants and anyone interested in solo dating.
Whether you’re nervous to try your first solo date or looking to deepen your relationship with yourself, these affirmations are here to support you every step of the way. Choose faves and use them to help overcome solo date jitters and give yourself a little pre-solo-date pep talk.
Remember: you are just as deserving to enjoy any experience whether you’re with others or solo. May these affirmations help you remember that!
😬 Solo Date Affirmations for Overcoming Anxiety
One of the biggest themes I see preventing people from enjoying solo dates is anxiety. May these affirmations help you overcome this challenge so you can enjoy the things you really want to in life.
1. It’s okay to feel nervous and go anyway
2. I am safe in my own company
3. I am allowed to feel unsure and still show up for myself
4. I can do hard things
5. I don’t need to have it all figured out to enjoy the moment
6. This feeling will pass, but the growth will stay
7. I am stronger than my fear
8. I trust myself to navigate this experience with grace
9. I am calm, present, and grounded
10. I allow myself to ease into this new experience
11. Every solo date helps me rewrite old fears
12. I choose to meet anxiety with kindness
13. I am doing something brave for my future self
14. It’s normal to feel out of my comfort zone when I’m growing
❤️ Self-Love Solo Date Affirmations
Solo dates are all about fostering self love within yourself.
1. I am my own best date
2. I love spending time with myself
3. I treat myself the way I want to be treated
4. I am worthy of care, joy, and presence—from myself
5. I deserve to enjoy beautiful moments, even (and especially) alone
6. I choose myself, again and again
7. I am enough just as I am
8. I love to spoil myself
9. I honor what brings me joy
10. My relationship with myself is the foundation of everything else
11. I speak to myself with kindness and love
12. I show up for myself the way I would for someone I love
13. I make space for my own needs and desires
14. I am worthy of rest, fun, and delight
15. I deserve to prioritize myself
16. I am learning to enjoy my own company deeply
17. I deserve to be treated with tenderness
18. I am building a life I love—with myself at the center
🌟 Solo Date Affirmations to Boost Confidence
One of the best outcomes of solo dating is the boost you get in your confidence levels! Sometimes it helps to get a mini boost before you even go on your solo date with these affirmations.
1. I belong wherever I choose to be
2. I take up space with ease and grace
3. I move through the world with quiet confidence
4. I trust myself to handle new situations successfully
5. My confidence grows every time I show up for myself
6. I radiate assurance and groundedness
7. I can be powerful without being loud
8. I am proud of myself for doing this
9. My presence is enough
10. I carry myself with confidence, even when I’m nervous
11. I give myself permission to feel confident, calm, and empowered
12. I trust in my ability to figure things out
13. I am allowed to feel confident in my own skin
14. I don’t need anyone’s approval to enjoy my life
15. I am exactly where I need to be
16. I’ve got me—and that’s more than enough
17. I deserve to take up space – no explanation needed
🌈 Positive Attitude Solo Date Affirmations
As humans, we default to negative thoughts. But it’s so important to overcome our negative thoughts and shift into positivity to have the best experience possible. Use these to help!
1. I choose joy in this moment
2. Something beautiful is waiting for me today
3. I am open to unexpected delight
4. Every solo date is an opportunity for magic
5. Today is a good day to enjoy being alive and have a fun experience
6. I see beauty all around me
7. I am grateful for the freedom to do this
8. I am creating joyful memories with myself
9. I welcome simple pleasures with open arms
10. The more I enjoy life, the more life opens to me
11. My joy is valid and worth pursuing
🤝 Affirmations When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong
As a former school outcast, I tend to default to feeling like I don’t belong, especially when I’m feeling especially nervous. So if you’re worried you’ll feel out of place on your solo date, I so get it! But you DO belong anywhere you choose. May these affirmations help you remember that.
1. I don’t need a reason to be here—I am allowed to take up space
2. I release the belief that I need to earn my place
3. I am not an outsider. I am a person enjoying life.
4. Being alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely—it means I’m self-connected
5. I deserve to be here just as much as anyone else here
6. My worth is not dependent on who I’m with
7. I create my own belonging
8. Showing up solo is a sign of power
9. I am not too much or not enough. I am whole
10. The right people will admire this kind of courage
11. I am free from the opinions of strangers
12. I don’t need to explain why I’m here
13. There is power in walking into a space alone
14. I belong in spaces where I feel joy and peace
💪 Solo Date Affirmations to Boost Your Courage
Call on your inner courage to help you tackle your solo date and follow through on your big plans.
1. I am doing something brave for myself
2. In 20 years, no one will remember the girl who showed up solo
3. Every small act of courage builds my self-trust
4. I lead with bravery, not perfection
5. I am proud of every step I take outside my comfort zone
6. My courage inspires others
7. I can do this
8. I don’t have to be fearless—just willing to show up for myself
9. I am building confidence and resilience with every solo step
10. My courage is louder than my fear
11. It takes strength to choose yourself
12. I’m not waiting for confidence to come first—I’m building it now
13. Even if it feels awkward, I am still going to take action for me
14. I choose courage over comfort
15. I do not shrink to make others comfortable
🌟 Empowering Affirmations to Close Your Solo Date
Use these powerful affirmations to help close out your solo date experience and remind yourself how awesome you are!
1. I did something for me, and I’m proud of that
2. I can celebrate myself without needing external validation
3. I created something beautiful with my time today
4. I am becoming the kind of person I’ve always admired
5. Every time I show up for myself, I grow
6. I’m so glad I didn’t wait for someone else
7. I feel more connected to myself after this
8. I am thankful for this time I gave myself
9. My glow-up includes quality time with myself
10. I’m building a life I love—one solo date at a time
11. I am walking away from this experience even more whole than before
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Summary
Use these affirmations anytime you need a mindset shift, a courage boost, or a reminder that you are your own best company.
You don’t have to prove to anyone why you show up where you do. You deserve to be wherever you please just as any other person there, whether they’re part of a couple, group outing, or there solo too.
Remember: solo dates are powerful. And so you are!
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Thank you for stopping by and checking out my 100 Solo Date Affirmations (For Confidence, Self-Love, Courage, and Beyond!). Hope you found some solo date affirmations you love! Happy solo dating!
Comment below: What’s your first (or next) solo date?!